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Should these type of relationships be tolerated in a new or ongoing relationships and who is to blame when unwritten rules and boundaries are broken? Should there be consequences for such "Real" inappropriate behavior?
Let's get started shall we.
ReplyDeleteGood evening Mr. Givens.
ReplyDeleteGood evening Ms.Barner!
DeleteI think respect is required to handle and/or deal with this
ReplyDeleteI agree, but I believe boundaries need to be communicated.
ReplyDeleteTrue. Without hypocrisy.
DeleteComments are welcomed.
ReplyDeletePlease feel free to weigh in.
Problems come to play when the boundaries are not respected.
ReplyDeleteAnd when the respect is one sided.
DeleteIf it's wrong for one it's wrong for all.
ReplyDeletePlease explain.
ReplyDeleteIf the respect is only mentioned when it's being used against you and not taken serious by the finger pointer
DeleteOkay. I understand.
DeleteI admit, I feel some kind of way about the subject. However, Jesus has been working on me. Opening my mind to new perspectives.
ReplyDeleteAmen!
DeleteIt's a joint process
ReplyDeleteI have friends that believe that their man should have no female friends. I think this way of thinking is extreme. However, I understand their fear. Past experiences will induce this sort of behavior.
ReplyDeleteFear should be replaced with confidence and self assurance.
DeleteNot with thoughts of karma.
Wow and Amen.
DeleteHow do men feel when their woman has a male best friend?
ReplyDeleteIt depends on secure he is with himself.
DeleteSo...........you're saying a secure man could handle his woman having a male best friend? Interesting. The reverse should apply as well? I guess it all boils down to trust.
DeleteI respect friendships that are respectful all the way around.
ReplyDeleteWhat would be considered disrespectful?
ReplyDeleteUncommunicated feelings or intentions
DeleteUnacknowledged advances either way
DeleteDisregarded feelings
DeleteSo it's okay to cross those boundaries as long as the person is honest?
DeleteI agree with Doris, but if your love is true, you will be more considerate of your mates feelings and think of them before breaking. Boundaries and relationship rules.
DeleteAlso Agree with Mr. Givens ...Honesty even tho it hurts sometimes it is best.
DeleteI admit, I would have more respect for a person that was honest than to sit around harboring emotions and building resentment.
ReplyDeleteThank you Ms.Barner for all you've contributed. God Bless all and Good Night!
ReplyDeleteMy take on the question what is disrespectful is , talking about your relationship problems with the best friend and allowing them say so in the relationship on your problems. I don't feel that is a friends place.
ReplyDeleteI understand, but it depends on the dynamics of friendship. If my friend was wrong concerning a relationship issue, I was quick to take his girl friend's side. Wrong is wrong. The reverse was true. Sometime people are too close to a situation. They need another's perspective. Regardless, the truth should be reveal and there should be no hidden motives.
DeleteIf the friend puts their friend's significant other down to lift themselves up and/or to drive a wedge between the couple, the friend's heart is not right. This is a form of manipulation. Therefore, this person should be excommunicated, not to mention God will handle them, if necessary.
I get what you are saying about needing outside perspective, when I say they shouldn't have a say so I mean more that they shouldn't be speaking on the person in the relationships behalf. Yes when My guy friends are wrong I tell them, but I don't take the authority to come at their mate when she is wrong.. I offer more prayer for correction more so then my opinion, I try my best not step on anybody toes.
DeleteMy Question, If you didn't have this opposite sex best friend before your mate came into your life , how do you build a strong friendship like that with someone else, at this point why is your mate not your best friend?
ReplyDeleteIt's easy and harmless. People need not to make an issue when there isn't an issue. Some people's personalities get along better than other, truth. It doesn't take away from the other relationship. Every relationship/friendship is different.
ReplyDeleteI believe issues arise when the truth is not being told and boundaries are crossed without real consequences. Each person in the triangle should be held accountable for their actions or inaction.
There should NEVER be a power struggle between a friend and their friend's significant other. The significant other is Queen/King and should be respected.
ReplyDeleteI agree completely also something God is working on me , I trust until the friend step on my toes.
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