Friday, May 22, 2015

Dear Baby™ Wants to Know 

Dear Baby™ Wants to Know is a continuation of my brand addressing relationship needs, wants, and desires. Feel free and uninhibited concerning your replies to the question presented. 

"It's 10 years and still going, day by day, moment by moment. Lessons along the way some harder some easier. But we're here together, not because we need to be, but because we want too."--Boris Kodjoe

"My ex-husband said the reason he cheated on me was that he wanted VARIETY. I thank him for that lesson, because I have brought variety to my marriage with Bo (NEW HUSBAND) and it truly IS the spice of our life! I vary our activities. I vary our fun. I vary our intimacy. I make up silly (but EFFECTIVE) holidays like Husband Appreciation Day, Free Grope Friday, and regular date nights. I leave love notes in unexpected places and at unexpected times. I make his lunch, serve him dinner, and make sure he smiles and laughs every day. I honor him, spoil him, and treat him like the KING he is, and I make sure he knows that he is LOVED and APPRECIATED. And none of these things has ANYTHING to do with CHEATING."--Gail Tennyson Hicks


The road to marriage and a good relationship is not easy. How can we recognize a good relationship and/or make it better?

70 comments:

  1. Good evening everyone! As usual Ms.Doris Barner has picked a great topic....*we won't our liquor license. Everyone please weigh in and enjoy the conversation.

    *inside joke*


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  2. Good evening everyone. I just wanted to say I still haven't figured it out yet. What I have notice is what works in one relationship may not work for another. Again it's all about the dynamic of the relationship.

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    1. I agree. It's about the character. The heart. And the personality.

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  3. *We won't lose our liquor license*

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  4. Being 200% transparent. Honest. And the best person you can be helps too.

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    1. I agree. You can have a relationship with a fake person. It never works.

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    2. I am always a open book to my love. That's the only way to be to me.

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  5. So what is you idea of a good relationship? Mine is I don't know...complicated.

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  6. Then again it is not. I'm a giver so seeing my man happy and satisfied is priority for me.

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  7. If you both smile more so then not, and to end your conversations with I love you. From both members let me know we good.

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    1. I agree. It's like always kiss me goodnight. It's something my parents did not matter what. I want to incorporate that into my marriage one day. I hope, God willing, lol.

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  8. Surrounding yourself with positive influence helps.

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    1. Yes, negativity can cause chaos in a relationship.

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  9. Prayer is always a good way to help keep yur relationship good also.

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    1. Prayer is that third robe that strengthen a relationship from the inside right down to the foundation. Praying together is an even greater bond.

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    2. I agree Prayer with each other and for each other is the foundation it's also the ultimate show of love to me.

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  10. Also what let's me know we good is when your mate gives affirmation of love with out saying..just a smile or a your the best the little things.

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    1. That's it right there, simple appreciation.

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  11. Gail Tennyson Hicks made some good points about keeping the relationship spicy. I think all couples should find their variety.

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    1. Yes spicy works very well.

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    2. Variety is always a good thing. It can bring out the best in each other.

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  12. Bringing a different element into the relationship helps out major.

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  13. When things are good, you don't think so much about the relationship as a whole. However, when crap hits the fan, I believe love and commitment will see you through. You have to hold on be accountable and consistent. Even when you don't feel like working at it.

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    1. It lets a person know your in it for the long haul.

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    2. Knowing your back is cover through the good and the bad is the ultimate sign (for me) that you're in a good relationship.

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    3. Things like that help you get re-acquainted.

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    4. Good relations embodies a host of good things.Hopeful things. Positive things. Strong things.

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    5. Amen Curtis somebody showing out to night loving it...:)

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  14. Your right Doris you have to hold yourself accountable for flaws in your relationship, but don't beat yourself up and nag your mate about things you both agreed was over with.

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    1. Right it makes you realize things that are really important.

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    2. You are absolutely correct. Being in a good relationship requires each individuals to let the past go. Holding on to past hurts smothers a relationship with resentment. As for nagging, I can't stand when it's done to me, so I make an effort not to do to other people in or out of a relationship.

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    3. Me too I don't like to argue and or be argued at .

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    5. Bringing out the best in each other is a win win

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    6. Absolutely in your voice Curtis.

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  15. When you love someone you love for better or worse if you both know it's worth it.

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    1. When it comes to love there should be no conditions. Everything is as is if it's done right. Love me and my flaws.

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    2. Not saying with conditions saying both are on one accord.

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    3. However, don't develop any new flaws, lol. That will upset the apple cart.

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    4. What ye say Curtis Givens?

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    5. I understand Tasha on one accord sounds much better.

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    6. My and my friend girl was talking about "new flaws" changing faces we called it.

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    7. You know.... She cooks you dinner every night for the first 6-months then you get a home cook meal every other weekend, lol.

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    8. That's a good name for it Tasha. I hear and read men talking about it all the time.

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    9. OK I know I see men and women talk about it . I am me and always me and can only get better.

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  16. As usual it was a great topic. Great conversation. Great back and forth. Thank you Ms.Barner and Ms.Davis. Loook forward to next week. God Bless and Good night

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